Mushy Monday

Fair warning: this is a lovey dovey post.  If you don't like it, don't read it.

Tomorrow marks mine and RJ's 4th anniversary.  I know, Valentine's Day, kind of ridiculous and cheesy.

For those of you who know the whole story, you know there's much more to it than Valentine's day.  For those of you who don't...please don't judge me.

Four years ago I had a "Valentine" and it was not RJ.  In fact, it was one of his fraternity brother and one of my very favorite people in the world, Tyler. We had a dinner date with another "Valentine's" couple and had a wonderful time.  My secret was that throughout the entire "date" I had been texting RJ and he FINALLY asked me to come over to his room to watch a movie.  After leaving my date, I promptly headed to his house and the rest is history...  Oh yeah, except the part where we hid our relationship from our bestest friends for 3 months.

Right, well, now that everyone knows my dirty little secret, here's where we are now.  Fast-forward 4 of the fastest years of my life.  I guess it says something for our relationship when I cannot believe that it has been even 2 years.  We are still ridiculously crazy about each other and life together doesn't drag by, it's just fun. We play together, plan together, depend on each other, and love each other unconditionally.  All in all, we just live life together.  Don't get me wrong, we also argue and fight, but even when I am so mad I can't speak I would never want to be anywhere other than exactly where I am.

Life gets mundane, dishes need to be done, laundry needs to be put away, and unfortunately I have to go to work everyday.  The secret to our happiness, as cheesy as it sounds, is that we live our lives to try and make the other happy.  Everyday I feel loved and cherished.  Even when I am crying because our plans have fallen apart, RJ can somehow make it better.  Even if it is just a box of cupcakes and a night spent "camping" on an air mattress in the den, he makes it special. I know that he would do absolutely anything to take my tears away and it makes me start to dwell on how lucky I am and less on how things didn't go as I had imagined in my head.

One of the biggest hurdles for me was learning that just because RJ doesn't show love the way I do, doesn't make either of us wrong; it makes us different.  In order to learn about each other we took THIS QUIZ and started really digging into "The Love Languages" that we each prefer. Now we are committing to step outside of our comfort zone and make the sacrifice and effort to love the other in the way that THEY recognize love and want to be loved.

I think all of you should do it too.  There are quizzes for attached and single.  It is enlightening and actually makes a whole lot of sense if you allow yourself to listen without becoming defensive.

I can honestly say, life is hard, but I am happier now than I have ever been.  I have someone I cannot imagine living without and I cannot wait to see what the future holds for us.